Om Namo Bhagavathe Vaasudevaayaa!
Essay
4:
Is your ‘Vessel of Happiness’ always complete and full to the
brim?
If you were to put this question across to anyone in our day to day life – be it a man or a woman; teenager or a septuagenarian; a student or an employee; a street hawker or a businessman; a homemaker or a career-woman; a local politician or a national level leader; a street mechanic or an IT professional’; a school teacher or a university professor; what could be the most probable and general answer? An affirmative ‘NO’, I believe.
But if you were to rephrase the question and
ask “Is complete and permanent happiness your ultimate goal in life?”. The
answer I believe, would be an affirmative ‘YES’. Two things flow out of this -
one is that all of us want complete happiness as our life’s goal and secondly,
no one’s happiness is always full and complete. Let’s see how and why this
happens.
A teenager wants more freedom and adventure; a
septuagenarian wants health and longer but enjoyable life; a student wants
either better scores or reduced burden of studies; an employee wants a further
raise and rewards; a street hawker wants to set up as shop; a businessman would
like to be an industrialist; a home-maker may want to become an earning member;
a career-woman may want better work-life balance; a local politician aspires to
become a state or a national leader; a national leader may want to continue in
power always; a mechanic may wish to set up a workshop; an IT professional may
wish to work with the best names in the world; a school teacher may dream to
move onto a university; a professor may be dreaming for a Nobel nomination. Where
is the end for such aspirations, dreams and pursuits?
The vessel of happiness is housed in your mind
and your life long effort is to see that it is always full to the brim and
overflowing. But does this happen? It brings us to the first question where the
probable answer was a big NO. Is it then that our vessel of happiness is ever
growing in size so that we are not able to fill it up or does it leak? Both look
possible.
At work, you may have done something special
and you become a ‘shining star’ for a month. You are heaped with laurels and
rewards and you are thrilled and overjoyed and share this happiness with your
near and dear. Suddenly you find your vessel of happiness overflowing. A few
days pass. The excitement and euphoria die down and a look
at your vessel of happiness indicates that there is a gap. Your efforts begin
again. There are so many facets to your life and your quotient of happiness or
otherwise comes from all these various sources. So, there is always a pressure within
you to plug the gap arising from various quarters, by trying to fetch and fill
in happiness from various sources. This unending cycle goes on and on!
Where lies the problem? The vessel of
happiness is within you but you are trying to fill it up from sources outside
you. Happiness is a state of mind and unless you choose to be happy, you can
never be happy. No amount of external stimuli can ensure your happiness in a
sustained way. Whatever flashes of happiness occur, they are only transient and
temporary. As the rewards generally fall short of expectations, the happiness
is partial. So, the key lies in reigning in your expectations. While your
actions should be sincere, your ability to get non-attached to the outcome,
takes you closer to your happiness goal. There will be fewer disappointments, frustrations
and the vessel of happiness tends to remain full.
Karma Yoga of Gita trains one in this area.
It advocates continuous and dedicated practice of one’s enjoined actions without
attachment to the outcome, leading to a state of equilibrium of mind. It trains
one to be in a state of intellectual stability that helps one to view the
positive or negative outcome of one’s actions with equanimity. Perpetual and
complete happiness is then just a natural corollary!